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Re: “Transitioning early is beneficial for transgender children

This is so on the money. Many people assume that transgender children are just like other children, and suddenly decide they want to transition. For so many of us, nothing could be further from the truth.

Almost as soon as they can walk, transgender children will gravitate to their true gender. When forced to socialize with their birth gender, a trans-boy will play to rough, hurting the other girls, a trans-girl will be pushed, often into dangerous situations, their toys will be taken and not returned.

By elementary school, a trans-girl is getting bullied pretty regularly, and unless her parents are supportive, will try to hide the injuries and damage. A trans-girl may often get hurt on the playground, will be sick more often and longer. In some cases, these children are recovering from internal injuries that sometimes even turn fatal. Their parents still see them as a boy, but their classmates see them as a "Sissy"

A trans-boy often seeks out the other boys, and often does very well in sports and likes to rough-house with the boys. Unfortunately, because she is still a girl, the other boys may resent losing to a girl, even though she is so tough. With the girls, a trans-boy will often be isolated and rejected.

To survive, transgender children often become isolated, struggling to understand a world that makes very little sense to them. They don't know WHY they are the way they are, they just are. Often, transgender children are extremely and unusually intelligent, because of that isolation. I didn't like books about boys, and books about girls made me feel even more alone. So I read a LOT of non-fiction. I was reading at twice my grade level and by 7th grade I was reading engineering manuals. To be honest, I was looking for some way to change my sex to match my gender.

Puberty is a wonderful experience for a young boy, and a bit less wonderful for a young girl, but for a transgender child, it is a horrible and traumatic experience. Being told about puberty doesn't help either. Many trans-girls don't have testes until late into puberty, and when they "drop" it's like a death sentence. Some will even go so far as to try to castrate themselves. I tried boiling water, rubber bands to cut off circulation, and even a sledgehammer and a two-by-four. I've heard of others who soaked themselves in gasoline or lighter fluid and set their genitals on fire. There have been boys who have almost killed themselves trying to remove the testes with a razor blade or utility knife. Some accidentally cut the femeral artery and bleed to death.

Trans-boys often try to bind themselves, using compression shirts, ace bandages, and even electrical tape to make their breasts "go away". In some cases, this can lead to life threatening problems as well.

This brings us to suicide. Many transgender children have profound faith. They are praying for God to work a miracle long after other kids have given up on Santa-Clause, the Easter Bunny, Birthday Wishes, and Drumsticks. Transgender children never stop wishing, praying, and hoping for the miracle that will somehow turn them into their desired gender.

The suicide rate of 45% is shocking in itself, but there are factors that push that rate even higher. The more severe and intense the dysphoria, the higher the risk. The more opposition a transgender child experiences, the higher the risk of suicide. Many begin to hear about reincarnation and begin to see death as the only remaining option for getting the body and gender they have always wanted.

The WORST advice I ever got was from my father who said "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem". Being a severely transgender (transsexual) child, and getting no support from family, friends, doctors, therapists, or even psychologists, being trapped in my horrid male body was a PERMANENT problem. One year, I tried to commit suicide almost 100 times, including drug overdoses, lethal combinations of drugs and/or alcohol, walking in front of cars and trucks, and drinking/drugging myself into blackouts then starting fights with gangs that I had no chance of winning.

But what was most interesting, and frightening, is that I NEVER told ANYONE what I had tried to do, or that I was thinking about it, or even what I was doing when I did it.

I had two cousins, both transgender, who actually DID kill themselves. One gave himself the shot they used to put dogs to sleep - he knew the dosage because he helped his father who was a veterinarian.

The other cousin was taking lithium and drank a pint of hard liquor along with some sedatives dissolved into the booze. His liver converted the booze into formaldehyde and he effectively embalmed himself.

Both wrote their notes after taking the final and irreversible action, writing of how they had feelings and needs that they had been told were sinful. They knew they couldn't resist the temptations, so they took their lives, asking for forgiveness and salvation after taking the fatal action.

I know that both of their parents would rather have had them alive.

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Posted by Debbie Lawrence on 03/22/2017 at 6:58 PM

Re: “Local letters on the Gazette defend Richard Skorman, urge voters to cast ballots

Egos aside, will chard take care of his daughter, Madeleine, now that Liz Mykut is gone.or how about helping Tom?

Posted by charredmaple on 03/22/2017 at 5:55 PM

Re: “The fourth estate is in peril

I concur with the Smith legacy. I taught Alissa and Sam -- they never let other people do their thinking for them. Salut -- fight the good fight.

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Posted by schriendog on 03/22/2017 at 3:32 PM

Re: “Reader: Leave the yard signs alone

Politicians littering public land with signs is the bigger problem, we should end that.

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Posted by Okiedokie on 03/22/2017 at 1:38 PM

Re: “Transitioning early is beneficial for transgender children

Thanks @heidi - great article!

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Posted by Kelly Cummings Snyder on 03/22/2017 at 10:15 AM

Re: “Beware the Gazette after blatant editorials, mistakes

So then the G is kind of like the 'Archie Bunker' of newspapers?

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Posted by Robert Gentry on 03/22/2017 at 9:55 AM

Re: “Beware the Gazette after blatant editorials, mistakes

Thank you Ralph Routon and the Independent. I have been following a blog being written and posted online by John Schroyer (former Gazette reporter) with great interest. But not knowing his background or circumstances beyond the blog, I've been cautious about giving one hundred percent credence to what I read there. Your description of the Clearing the Haze series matches his. I'm now convinced that we who are deeply concerned about Phil Anschutz's Gazette are all on the same page - that our suspicions are based on provable fact. I'd like to encourage anyone who is interested in the journalistic integrity of the news we here in Colorado Springs are receiving, to check out Mr. Schroyrer's blog. It's called "Phil's Gazette".

You can find it here:
http://philsgazette.blogspot.com/2017/01/p…

What's happening to our news in Colorado Springs is not just worrisome .... it's alarming.

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Posted by doonya on 03/22/2017 at 9:32 AM

Re: “Beware the Gazette after blatant editorials, mistakes

The Gazette is only concerned with part of the community. 40.31%, to be precise. Thus the disinterest in accuracy and journalistic ethics. Those items are not valued by their readers.

Registered Voters in El Paso County as of 3/20/2017

Colorado Democratic Party 94,289 21.54% Major Party
Colorado Republican Party 176,476 40.31% Major Party
Unaffiliated 157,349 35.94%

Source: http://car.elpasoco.com/Election/Pages/def…

Not that there's anything wrong about that...the First Amendment applies here. But for those looking for balance and accuracy...the Gazette is not going to be your source of news.

As for me, I just don't read it because it's a) not a reliable source, and b) it aggravates my chronic blood pressure issues.

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Posted by Bill W. on 03/22/2017 at 8:56 AM

Re: “Beware the Gazette after blatant editorials, mistakes

Good one Ralph.

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Posted by Gopher on 03/22/2017 at 8:34 AM

Re: “Beware the Gazette after blatant editorials, mistakes

"Uncle Ralph" has had enough! And good on him!

It is indeed refreshing to find a male in the local 'caspar milquetoast community' of spineless weaklings who have something besides warm whipped cream stuffed down their nutsacks who will actually stand up and say something when it's obvious something needs to be said!

While everybody else is huddled up at the El Paso Club or Plaza of the Rockies.

Ralph and Pam: couple of jalapenos stuck in the middle of the bland vanilla pudding!

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Posted by R Wehner on 03/22/2017 at 3:01 AM

Re: “Reader: Leave the yard signs alone

I had hundreds of signs stolen in a systematic and methodical way in my Council campaign. I'd love to be able to catch some of these people and have them testify to the City as an alternative punishment why they think what they're doing is ok.

It's indicative of the filth in Colorado Political scene. The political consultant class is well known for their pond-scum based moral compass. Sad that in Colorado Springs the paid-for-hire consultant class would rather cheat than let candidates compete on their strengths and weaknesses. Sad.

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Posted by Joel C. Miller on 03/21/2017 at 10:56 PM

Re: “Reader: Leave the yard signs alone

So petty. Where us our freedom of speech?

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Posted by Lenora McAndrews Degen on 03/21/2017 at 11:41 AM

Re: “Reader: Leave the yard signs alone

It is happening everywhere and I'm sure to more than Richard.
The first time signs disappeared his opponent signs had sprung up over night.

Parents are setting a bad example. Stop trespassing!

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Posted by TruB on 03/20/2017 at 5:58 PM

Re: “Reader: Leave the yard signs alone

So, unless those signs were burned, they still exist somewhere. In a car trunk, in someone's garage, in a landfill? Who knows? But I'll keep my eye out for them just the same. If I spot them there will be the dickens to pay. I wish there was a "find my iPhone" app for political signs. It's a sad state of affairs in our city that that last sentence found its way into print. PS If you are on good terms with your trash collector you might want to ask the guys to let you know if they should see them... and from where they were picked up.

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Posted by Mur on 03/20/2017 at 3:34 PM

Re: “A solution for improving Colorado's roads and bridges

Couldn't have said it better myself!

Posted by Tina Kohler on 03/19/2017 at 12:57 PM

Re: “A solution for improving Colorado's roads and bridges

The problem with our transportation infrastructure isn't lack of funding, it's that we spend the funds we already have in an extremely wasteful manner: adding more miles of pavement, or extra lanes to a busy road, intuitively makes sense as a way to reduce congestion and travel times, but in practice building more roadway always invites more traffic over time ("induced demand") and so we get a very temporary benefit at very high cost. If the goal is to improve network capacity and average speeds within and between cities, we should not be throwing money at one of the least efficient modes of intra-city transport available and should instead be investing heavily in commuter rail, buses, and infrastructure that invites walking and cycling (the exact opposite of what we have now, infrastructure which imposes extra burdens on anyone not traveling via automobile).

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Posted by David E on 03/17/2017 at 1:13 PM

Re: “Reader: Vote to keep our town moving forward

While I support the same candidates as this letter writer, I really dislike the tone. These candidates have done an excellent job of presenting themselves and their credentials without resorting to the smear tactics of their opponents.

As supporters, let's do the same, please!

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Posted by Elle Ameno on 03/17/2017 at 8:51 AM

Re: “Reader: Vote to keep our town moving forward

I will be voting for them! Though I'm still waiting to get my ballot that was mailed last Friday.

Posted by Judith Posch on 03/16/2017 at 2:38 PM

Re: “Reader: Vote to keep our town moving forward

>Chuck Fowler in District 3 failed his neighbors during the Waldo Canyon Fire while working as manager of their homeowners association board.

What did he do?

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Posted by Matt 2 on 03/16/2017 at 8:59 AM

Re: “Reader: A reminder that Doug Lamborn is not representing the people

Put a $100 bill in an envelope and send it Lamborn. I'm sure that will get you in the door for a meeting with him. Another $100 might help him listen to you as well.

Sorry, but cynicism is a form of realism. In this case, the reality is that he doesn't give a whit about anyone but his donors.

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Posted by Bill W. on 03/15/2017 at 10:20 AM

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