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Re: “Transitioning early is beneficial for transgender children

This is so on the money. Many people assume that transgender children are just like other children, and suddenly decide they want to transition. For so many of us, nothing could be further from the truth.

Almost as soon as they can walk, transgender children will gravitate to their true gender. When forced to socialize with their birth gender, a trans-boy will play to rough, hurting the other girls, a trans-girl will be pushed, often into dangerous situations, their toys will be taken and not returned.

By elementary school, a trans-girl is getting bullied pretty regularly, and unless her parents are supportive, will try to hide the injuries and damage. A trans-girl may often get hurt on the playground, will be sick more often and longer. In some cases, these children are recovering from internal injuries that sometimes even turn fatal. Their parents still see them as a boy, but their classmates see them as a "Sissy"

A trans-boy often seeks out the other boys, and often does very well in sports and likes to rough-house with the boys. Unfortunately, because she is still a girl, the other boys may resent losing to a girl, even though she is so tough. With the girls, a trans-boy will often be isolated and rejected.

To survive, transgender children often become isolated, struggling to understand a world that makes very little sense to them. They don't know WHY they are the way they are, they just are. Often, transgender children are extremely and unusually intelligent, because of that isolation. I didn't like books about boys, and books about girls made me feel even more alone. So I read a LOT of non-fiction. I was reading at twice my grade level and by 7th grade I was reading engineering manuals. To be honest, I was looking for some way to change my sex to match my gender.

Puberty is a wonderful experience for a young boy, and a bit less wonderful for a young girl, but for a transgender child, it is a horrible and traumatic experience. Being told about puberty doesn't help either. Many trans-girls don't have testes until late into puberty, and when they "drop" it's like a death sentence. Some will even go so far as to try to castrate themselves. I tried boiling water, rubber bands to cut off circulation, and even a sledgehammer and a two-by-four. I've heard of others who soaked themselves in gasoline or lighter fluid and set their genitals on fire. There have been boys who have almost killed themselves trying to remove the testes with a razor blade or utility knife. Some accidentally cut the femeral artery and bleed to death.

Trans-boys often try to bind themselves, using compression shirts, ace bandages, and even electrical tape to make their breasts "go away". In some cases, this can lead to life threatening problems as well.

This brings us to suicide. Many transgender children have profound faith. They are praying for God to work a miracle long after other kids have given up on Santa-Clause, the Easter Bunny, Birthday Wishes, and Drumsticks. Transgender children never stop wishing, praying, and hoping for the miracle that will somehow turn them into their desired gender.

The suicide rate of 45% is shocking in itself, but there are factors that push that rate even higher. The more severe and intense the dysphoria, the higher the risk. The more opposition a transgender child experiences, the higher the risk of suicide. Many begin to hear about reincarnation and begin to see death as the only remaining option for getting the body and gender they have always wanted.

The WORST advice I ever got was from my father who said "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem". Being a severely transgender (transsexual) child, and getting no support from family, friends, doctors, therapists, or even psychologists, being trapped in my horrid male body was a PERMANENT problem. One year, I tried to commit suicide almost 100 times, including drug overdoses, lethal combinations of drugs and/or alcohol, walking in front of cars and trucks, and drinking/drugging myself into blackouts then starting fights with gangs that I had no chance of winning.

But what was most interesting, and frightening, is that I NEVER told ANYONE what I had tried to do, or that I was thinking about it, or even what I was doing when I did it.

I had two cousins, both transgender, who actually DID kill themselves. One gave himself the shot they used to put dogs to sleep - he knew the dosage because he helped his father who was a veterinarian.

The other cousin was taking lithium and drank a pint of hard liquor along with some sedatives dissolved into the booze. His liver converted the booze into formaldehyde and he effectively embalmed himself.

Both wrote their notes after taking the final and irreversible action, writing of how they had feelings and needs that they had been told were sinful. They knew they couldn't resist the temptations, so they took their lives, asking for forgiveness and salvation after taking the fatal action.

I know that both of their parents would rather have had them alive.

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Posted by Debbie Lawrence on 03/22/2017 at 6:58 PM

Re: “The fourth estate is in peril

I concur with the Smith legacy. I taught Alissa and Sam -- they never let other people do their thinking for them. Salut -- fight the good fight.

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Posted by schriendog on 03/22/2017 at 3:32 PM

Re: “Reader: Leave the yard signs alone

Politicians littering public land with signs is the bigger problem, we should end that.

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Posted by Okiedokie on 03/22/2017 at 1:38 PM

Re: “Update: Writers in Gazette have history of political consulting

A review of the Colorado Secretary of State's listing for Windhover Creative Partners LLC shows NO change in ownership or members - calling into question Wayne Laugesen's claim that he (and Scott Weiser) "left" the organization.

Perhaps Wayne and Dede could release the tax records for their business?

They certainly have not had any problem asking that of others.

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Posted by Matt Arnold on 03/22/2017 at 12:26 PM

Re: “Update: Writers in Gazette have history of political consulting

CSaction video of the protest of the GAGzette: https://youtu.be/FbwN8PZVOU8

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Posted by Bill Burns on 03/22/2017 at 10:49 AM

Re: “Dispute in Council District 5 race over false campaign claims

Being a 'political consultant' must be similar to being a defense attorney. Somebody has to do it and if you are good - you make great money. Which is the bottom line of politics.

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Posted by Robert Gentry on 03/22/2017 at 10:42 AM

Re: “Dispute in Council District 5 race over false campaign claims

Lying to people to win campaigns is not an attribute of a great person. Sorry. Schoolyard taunts? Why don't you read some of the libel put out by this "great person" and how she and the people that pay her have no issue destroying lives in order to get a few more votes. Sounds to me like she got caught committing a misdemeanor. Imagine if an opponent of one of her clients had a hint of a traffic infraction what Ms. Jack would manipulate that into!

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Posted by Joel C. Miller on 03/22/2017 at 10:27 AM

Re: “Transitioning early is beneficial for transgender children

Thanks @heidi - great article!

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Posted by Kelly Cummings Snyder on 03/22/2017 at 10:15 AM

Re: “Dispute in Council District 5 race over false campaign claims

Mr. Miller, Have to respond. Sarah Jack is indeed a political consultant . . . and a great person that gives her time and energy to making our community better. Sorry you took the next step down for local political discourse by calling names like this is some schoolyard taunt.

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Posted by Kevin Walker on 03/22/2017 at 10:14 AM

Re: “Beware the Gazette after blatant editorials, mistakes

So then the G is kind of like the 'Archie Bunker' of newspapers?

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Posted by Robert Gentry on 03/22/2017 at 9:55 AM

Re: “Beware the Gazette after blatant editorials, mistakes

Thank you Ralph Routon and the Independent. I have been following a blog being written and posted online by John Schroyer (former Gazette reporter) with great interest. But not knowing his background or circumstances beyond the blog, I've been cautious about giving one hundred percent credence to what I read there. Your description of the Clearing the Haze series matches his. I'm now convinced that we who are deeply concerned about Phil Anschutz's Gazette are all on the same page - that our suspicions are based on provable fact. I'd like to encourage anyone who is interested in the journalistic integrity of the news we here in Colorado Springs are receiving, to check out Mr. Schroyrer's blog. It's called "Phil's Gazette".

You can find it here:
http://philsgazette.blogspot.com/2017/01/p…

What's happening to our news in Colorado Springs is not just worrisome .... it's alarming.

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Posted by doonya on 03/22/2017 at 9:32 AM

Re: “Beware the Gazette after blatant editorials, mistakes

The Gazette is only concerned with part of the community. 40.31%, to be precise. Thus the disinterest in accuracy and journalistic ethics. Those items are not valued by their readers.

Registered Voters in El Paso County as of 3/20/2017

Colorado Democratic Party 94,289 21.54% Major Party
Colorado Republican Party 176,476 40.31% Major Party
Unaffiliated 157,349 35.94%

Source: http://car.elpasoco.com/Election/Pages/def…

Not that there's anything wrong about that...the First Amendment applies here. But for those looking for balance and accuracy...the Gazette is not going to be your source of news.

As for me, I just don't read it because it's a) not a reliable source, and b) it aggravates my chronic blood pressure issues.

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Posted by Bill W. on 03/22/2017 at 8:56 AM

Re: “Helicopter accident report raises questions about 2015 Black Hawk crash

Good reporting. I've studied that truncated report and would add that the fact that it took 18 months to release anything is part of the deception. Slow walking the release of information is a strategy all by itself. Dozens of pages totally blank. Blacked out sections throughout. They operate on tax payer money and are obligated to more transparency. Reading closely one realizes there could have been an inferno if the fuel tanks hand been punctured. Currently Fort Carson is in the process of seeking more helicopter landing zones on both United States Forest Service and Bureau of Land Management lands in our nearby mountains. It's only a matter of time before their antics set off a really big forest fire. Meanwhile their daily intrusions into that airspace continue to impact the serenity of our mountain landscapes.

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Posted by Gopher on 03/22/2017 at 8:50 AM

Re: “Beware the Gazette after blatant editorials, mistakes

Good one Ralph.

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Posted by Gopher on 03/22/2017 at 8:34 AM

Re: “New female AFA commandant moving here soon, with her wife

Nowhere on the original e-mail was there any mention of "For Official Use Only." There were no disclaimers of any kind and it was sent out to EVERYONE at USAFA with an e-mail account on the date shown above. It was on some Facebook accounts within hours--including parent pages. And, yes, I agree that most of the Air Force is actually "f[u]rther along in this whole acceptance thing" than some want to acknowledge, and that's a good thing. I also think that you're missing the MRFF's point here. No one on the MRFF staff is calling for a headline that says "Lesbian Hired!" They're just asking the legitimate question: "Why, if the selection's already official and broadly announced to USAFA personnel, hasn't there been a public announcement or press release stating the relevant facts (and her private life is not a relevant fact here)?" The strange lack of timing just raises eyebrows and begs the question, "Are they trying to hide or downplay something here?" It just seems weird that DAYS go by without a press release when it was almost instantaneous in the past for other senior leader position changes at USAFA (Supt, Dean, AD, etc). And yes, Good on you, USAFA and Big Blue, for the selection.

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Posted by BirdManBlue on 03/22/2017 at 7:27 AM

Re: “Beware the Gazette after blatant editorials, mistakes

"Uncle Ralph" has had enough! And good on him!

It is indeed refreshing to find a male in the local 'caspar milquetoast community' of spineless weaklings who have something besides warm whipped cream stuffed down their nutsacks who will actually stand up and say something when it's obvious something needs to be said!

While everybody else is huddled up at the El Paso Club or Plaza of the Rockies.

Ralph and Pam: couple of jalapenos stuck in the middle of the bland vanilla pudding!

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Posted by R Wehner on 03/22/2017 at 3:01 AM

Re: “Some Air Force Academy cadets never have a chance — and they leave feeling defeated

As someone who knew older brother from outside view, he should have been allowed to stay. I care about standards, but Kwateng and his younger brother should both still be here. AFA is not a joke and I have seen enough criticisms from people who are clueless just because of criticisms they hear from those who are here. We are changing this place for the better, but baseless criticisms like that slow us down. Yes, some things likely happened that were wrong and they were wrongfully dismissed, but don't exaggerate how bad the whole institution is!

Posted by GetFacts on 03/21/2017 at 10:57 PM

Re: “Reader: Leave the yard signs alone

I had hundreds of signs stolen in a systematic and methodical way in my Council campaign. I'd love to be able to catch some of these people and have them testify to the City as an alternative punishment why they think what they're doing is ok.

It's indicative of the filth in Colorado Political scene. The political consultant class is well known for their pond-scum based moral compass. Sad that in Colorado Springs the paid-for-hire consultant class would rather cheat than let candidates compete on their strengths and weaknesses. Sad.

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Posted by Joel C. Miller on 03/21/2017 at 10:56 PM

Re: “Dispute in Council District 5 race over false campaign claims

Not much love lost between Gaebler and me, but if anyone deserves a little reckoning in this world before their reckoning that's sure to come in the next--it's Sarah Jack. Prosecution would be one way to give these political consultant class dirtbags at least some fear of conviction for their misdeeds.

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Posted by Joel C. Miller on 03/21/2017 at 10:50 PM

Re: “Nearly $73,000 in dark money flows into Colorado Springs city election

I don't think people in District 6, let alone, any district appreciate the meddling of our city council election. This isn't Washington, it's OUR city! We can't just let Andy Pico and other city council members get bought and effect how our city is run! As if taking developer money and sticking the burden of the neglected action of the storm water runoff issue wasn't enough. He continues to prove that he doesn't have the best interest of citizens of district 6, or the town as a whole, in mind.

I really feel like Melanie Bernhardt would be our best candidate. She's someone who can more than relate to the disposition of the average Colorado Springs citizen, because she's fed up as we are. I believe we need someone with not just the know how, but also the right stoic attitude of cutting through the BS and getting things done. Definitely check out her website melaniebernhardt.com and see for yourself

Posted by Sean Borah on 03/21/2017 at 9:34 PM

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