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Comment Archives: stories: Columns: Advice Goddess

Re: “He's buried under her feelings dump

"Eat, pray you'll shut up, love"
-a gentleman's POV-

The guilt and insecurities are normal, no foul in doing some research on your man; it's a crazy world, no doubt!

But... why would you tell him about the girl friend search, or insecurities?
-what is your motive? are you instigating rough waters? did you WANT to test his patience or boundaries?

Never lie about the research or your actions, defend them. You can be brutally honest about your insecurities too... when the time is right- when he, or she, identifies your actions an issue. The research may not be received as foul- maybe they did their research on Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, etc. too!

You presented your actions as foul, therefore a foul reaction should be expected- it seems justified. Had you presented your investigation as...
"duh, it's a crazy world and I wanted to be sure you weren't a psychopathic serial killer, so YES- I dug into your social media accounts... by the way your ex is pretty hot..."
Most men would respond- 'only the best for me!' not only would one avoid conflict, but one would also be placed in a class of the BEST!

-Love yourself first ladies and gentlemen!

Lots of love,
-BD+

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Posted by Boricua Dharma on 05/13/2015 at 12:46 PM

Re: “Online dating and the disabled guy

okay seriously? just from reading the intro to this it made me sad. everyone's got something they consider to be baggage. Finding a perfect match is more than just liking the things put on a profile. I know for a fact that if someone with this kind of condition was on Mesh, they would make intolerance of something so small a complete dealbreaker.

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Posted by Kira Stevens on 05/07/2015 at 11:19 AM

Re: “Dealing with a tire-slashing ex

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Posted by Suzanna Jerry on 04/29/2015 at 5:20 PM

Re: “Save up for a better boyfriend

Hang in there, love will find a way. It might not be with him, but someone out there appreciates and loves you. You just have to find them.

Posted by Rick in Scottsdale on 02/23/2015 at 6:56 AM

Re: “Playing with mismatches

My boyfriend (now husband) almost broke up with me over snoring and I don't blame him. My mom was a freight train my whole life which angered and frustrated me on my brother's travel hockey team trips. I have insurance so I decided to get the septoplasty done. You won't regret it!!! Do it!!! We both sleep better now since I don't have to feel self conscious and he doesn't have to glare at me and then the clock, then back at me wondering if he should just smother me.

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Posted by Sarah Gleeson on 02/11/2015 at 2:36 PM

Re: “He dislikes her TV-watching

the dear addy role is well suited for the indie

Posted by Roger Griggs on 12/24/2014 at 7:39 PM

Re: “Dating Mr. Know-it-all

To all the know-it-alls here is some great advise from Dr Wayne Dyer, the PBS mind guru says to remember, you can be RIGHT or you can be KIND, so choose to be KIND.

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Posted by guruD on 12/24/2014 at 10:49 AM

Re: “Dating Mr. Know-it-all

I have a friend that is a mr. know it all. Great guy but thinks he knows everything. I will say that this is one of the reasons you should only try dating sites like http://2connects.com/, that let you post videos. That way you may get a feel of someone being a know it all.

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Posted by Joe Woodard on 12/18/2014 at 9:38 AM

Re: “She wanted manly and badass

The guy saved his money and bought what he wanted? Like every purchase in a marriage needs to be a joint decision? What if the roles were reversed and a woman had to clear a dress purchase with a man. Said dress was not "sexy" enough? Come on, this is a load of donkey. Also - the quote about unicorn farts and rainbows is totally uncalled for. I call the "Advice Goddess" out and suggest she go riding with some real scooterists and broaden her own narrow horizons before she tells other's what to do.

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Posted by Martha Chlipala on 12/09/2014 at 7:47 AM

Re: “She wanted manly and badass

Sounds like a shallow, self-centered, just plain awful person to me.

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Posted by Warren Mceuen on 12/08/2014 at 5:54 PM

Re: “She wanted manly and badass

I re-read the article and failed to see any mention of "gay". That is NOT what it was about. I agree with Robert and disagree with the other commenters as it seems everyone else has tried to make this about "gay". Open your minds and read the column for what it really is.

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Posted by Ddenney on 12/08/2014 at 3:27 PM

Re: “She wanted manly and badass

While I disagree with the perpetuated stereotype, the obviously attempts at humor and ridiculous observations, there is decent sound advice in the column. Maybe either woman ought to get on the back of a Vespa and see what it's like. I can tell you that most women who have ridden on the back of my bike find the experience thrilling.

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Posted by Robert McCall on 12/08/2014 at 12:28 PM

Re: “She wanted manly and badass

Maybe it's a sign for Disappointed to get in touch with what moves her husband rather than what moves her. It's his choice, after all. And a good opportunity to widen her horizons and explore other things than her preconceived notions of the world.

As for the Easy Rider reference, if you've seen the movie, you know how THAT ended.

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Posted by fledermaus on 12/05/2014 at 9:13 AM

Re: “She wanted manly and badass

Question to the author: Why continue to promote unhealthy stereotypes? Why do we continue to proliferate the idea that a man must look a certain way or dress a certain way or ride or drive a certain vehicle to be considered a man? These antiquated ideas can only hurt relationships. What if the man wrote that he disappointed that his wife didn't dress like Mrs. Cleaver, and get in the kitchen to make him sandwiches? We wouldn't put up with that ridiculous idea, so why are we putting the same negative stereotypes on men? A means of transportation known world-wide for its ease of use, power and flexibility belongs to all the people, men and women. It's really pitiful that at the end of the day, you have to tell a person what they need to dress, wear or ride to fulfill an ultimately limiting idea of a sexual stereotype. And by the way, as a lady rider, scooters are frickin' awesome and fun. So are motorcycles, and skateboards and roller skates. I don't care what anyone rides, as long as they ride safely and responsibly. Also hubby and wife need to attend as MSF course together and then go out riding and visit a few scooter rallys and join a scooter club to see what riding a PTW is really all about. Less about old stereotypes next time please.

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Posted by Martha Chlipala on 12/05/2014 at 8:06 AM

Re: “She wanted manly and badass

Ddenny, no, you missed the point. The writer obviously used terms that would suggest the purchase of a scooter was ‘gay’. We don’t need this kind of intolerance by a self proclaimed writer. If she saved her money for a chain saw, is that considered ‘butch’?

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Posted by floridian on 12/04/2014 at 2:37 PM

Re: “She wanted manly and badass

You have obviously missed the point of the advice. It is NOT about "general transportation", it is about expectations, disappointment, dreams, relationship issues, such as making shared decisions on major purchases. As for the awards, "Her LA Times Magazine piece, Return of the Pink Rambler, won second place for "Best Magazine Feature Of 1999," and her New York Daily News series won first place in the "dailies above 100,000 circ" category -- also in the Southern California Journalism Awards."

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Posted by Ddenney on 12/04/2014 at 2:09 PM

Re: “She wanted manly and badass

One of the worst articles ever written. Scooters are used throughout the world for general transportation. A guys manhood shouldn’t be questioned in this case. Maybe if she had her hubby dress up in a bad boy biker costume that may have obtained the desired results she wanted. BTW: the writer is NOT a famous award winner. Look it up.

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Posted by floridian on 12/04/2014 at 1:20 PM

Re: “A cure for kiss-killing bad breath

For the majority of people (85-90%) of those who have bad breath, the single most frequent cause of bad breath problems are the bacteria that live in their mouth. Majority of the bacteria that live on our body and in our body are beneficial to us. Therefore, by using an antibacterial mouthwash we kill good as well as bad ones. I use BLIS K12 probiotics to restore the balance of bacteria in my mouth. When you use mouthwash, you kill all bacteria, good and bad. Then you find that both come back at similar rates and so does the bad breath. BLIS probiotics crowds out the bacteria that causes bad breath so they don't back in a hurry. I found this at http://blis.co.nz/conditions/bad-breath-halitosis.html#.U8H5zfmSySo

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Posted by Tim Smith on 07/12/2014 at 9:22 PM

Re: “Save up for a better boyfriend

Mr. Smith, how about the "sweet man" who pretends to care about women, but actually only wants to advertise his predatory loan service for free.

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Posted by Mr. K-- on 07/09/2014 at 12:53 PM

Re: “Save up for a better boyfriend

I don’t think that you have to use men but women must be cleverer. I know so many women who helped their boyfriends or who took cash advance loan no faxing on this site: http://www.cashadvanceloanstore.com/ for paying debts of their men. It seems to me that men often use women and I wasn’t to advise you not to take any loans if this man is not your husband. Be careful with different sweet men who promise you everything what you want.

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Posted by Brian Smith on 07/09/2014 at 2:33 AM

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