Debbie Lawrence 
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Re: “Transitioning early is beneficial for transgender children

This is so on the money. Many people assume that transgender children are just like other children, and suddenly decide they want to transition. For so many of us, nothing could be further from the truth.

Almost as soon as they can walk, transgender children will gravitate to their true gender. When forced to socialize with their birth gender, a trans-boy will play to rough, hurting the other girls, a trans-girl will be pushed, often into dangerous situations, their toys will be taken and not returned.

By elementary school, a trans-girl is getting bullied pretty regularly, and unless her parents are supportive, will try to hide the injuries and damage. A trans-girl may often get hurt on the playground, will be sick more often and longer. In some cases, these children are recovering from internal injuries that sometimes even turn fatal. Their parents still see them as a boy, but their classmates see them as a "Sissy"

A trans-boy often seeks out the other boys, and often does very well in sports and likes to rough-house with the boys. Unfortunately, because she is still a girl, the other boys may resent losing to a girl, even though she is so tough. With the girls, a trans-boy will often be isolated and rejected.

To survive, transgender children often become isolated, struggling to understand a world that makes very little sense to them. They don't know WHY they are the way they are, they just are. Often, transgender children are extremely and unusually intelligent, because of that isolation. I didn't like books about boys, and books about girls made me feel even more alone. So I read a LOT of non-fiction. I was reading at twice my grade level and by 7th grade I was reading engineering manuals. To be honest, I was looking for some way to change my sex to match my gender.

Puberty is a wonderful experience for a young boy, and a bit less wonderful for a young girl, but for a transgender child, it is a horrible and traumatic experience. Being told about puberty doesn't help either. Many trans-girls don't have testes until late into puberty, and when they "drop" it's like a death sentence. Some will even go so far as to try to castrate themselves. I tried boiling water, rubber bands to cut off circulation, and even a sledgehammer and a two-by-four. I've heard of others who soaked themselves in gasoline or lighter fluid and set their genitals on fire. There have been boys who have almost killed themselves trying to remove the testes with a razor blade or utility knife. Some accidentally cut the femeral artery and bleed to death.

Trans-boys often try to bind themselves, using compression shirts, ace bandages, and even electrical tape to make their breasts "go away". In some cases, this can lead to life threatening problems as well.

This brings us to suicide. Many transgender children have profound faith. They are praying for God to work a miracle long after other kids have given up on Santa-Clause, the Easter Bunny, Birthday Wishes, and Drumsticks. Transgender children never stop wishing, praying, and hoping for the miracle that will somehow turn them into their desired gender.

The suicide rate of 45% is shocking in itself, but there are factors that push that rate even higher. The more severe and intense the dysphoria, the higher the risk. The more opposition a transgender child experiences, the higher the risk of suicide. Many begin to hear about reincarnation and begin to see death as the only remaining option for getting the body and gender they have always wanted.

The WORST advice I ever got was from my father who said "Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem". Being a severely transgender (transsexual) child, and getting no support from family, friends, doctors, therapists, or even psychologists, being trapped in my horrid male body was a PERMANENT problem. One year, I tried to commit suicide almost 100 times, including drug overdoses, lethal combinations of drugs and/or alcohol, walking in front of cars and trucks, and drinking/drugging myself into blackouts then starting fights with gangs that I had no chance of winning.

But what was most interesting, and frightening, is that I NEVER told ANYONE what I had tried to do, or that I was thinking about it, or even what I was doing when I did it.

I had two cousins, both transgender, who actually DID kill themselves. One gave himself the shot they used to put dogs to sleep - he knew the dosage because he helped his father who was a veterinarian.

The other cousin was taking lithium and drank a pint of hard liquor along with some sedatives dissolved into the booze. His liver converted the booze into formaldehyde and he effectively embalmed himself.

Both wrote their notes after taking the final and irreversible action, writing of how they had feelings and needs that they had been told were sinful. They knew they couldn't resist the temptations, so they took their lives, asking for forgiveness and salvation after taking the fatal action.

I know that both of their parents would rather have had them alive.

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Posted by Debbie Lawrence on 03/22/2017 at 6:58 PM

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